What's The Difference Between Relationship Coaching & Relationship Therapy?

In relationship coaching, I am sometimes asked by new clients, “So is relationship coaching like relationship therapy?” And while the outcomes and goals may be similar – realizing a satisfying and healthy lifestyle for yourself and your partner - the style, methodology and approaches are entirely different!

So what’s the difference between the two, anyway?!

The biggest difference is that coaching focuses on identifying a clear process for reaching the outcome you desire, rather than focusing on diagnoses and repair through therapeutic sessions.  In therapy, time is often spent focusing on healing, and there might be trauma or strong fears centered around relationships.  In coaching, we work together toward identifying obstacles, setting goals, and making changes in the present.

A therapist might say things like, “How does that make you feel?” 

As a coach, I want to ask questions like, “Where would you like to be, and how can we get you there?”

To use an age-old trope, a coach is an awesome guide.  A coach can be an organizer, a sounding board, or someone who can give a fresh perspective.  A therapist, in contrast, will focus on identifying traumas and prescribing treatments. And while a coach might talk with a client on the phone, over the internet or in-person, therapy is typically provided in an office setting, where the therapist can observe, treat, and form hypotheses on problematic behaviors.

The relationship between coach and client is empowering and results-driven. I have a collaborative relationship with my clients as a coach, and we work together to identify goals, develop skills, and create a roadmap for attaining the lifestyle they envision.

And why are we talking about this?

Great question!!!  Part of moving forward, and getting the help you want, is knowing what sort of specialist you require.  Therapy is certainly very important if you’re working through past issues, and relational therapy can help people move through separation, loss, anxiety and destructive behaviors. However, if you’re looking to achieve results through motivation, inspiration and guidance, relationship coaching may be the best fit. It’s important to know what you need.

So ask yourself: what are you looking for?  If you’re ready to focus on the future and want to have an advocate collaborate with you creating lifelong healthy habits, then coaching is an excellent option. I’m here to guide you on the path to self-improvement and fulfillment, which inevitably leads to a happier, healthier partnership, too. It all starts with you! 

Reach out if you’re ready to make a change…

Ashlan Warsteane - The Life Solutionist
Southern Oregon
(760) 974-6058
info@lifesolutionist.com